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Do you have unrelenting standards?

Published 5 October 2021 in Brain circuits • 2 min read

Many executives place far too much stress on themselves and their teams as a result of what psychologists call “unrelenting standards” – the constant pressure to achieve impossibly high levels of performance. For these leaders, excellence is not enough, only perfection will do. They find it difficult to find satisfaction in their accomplishments, no matter how great; they don’t express enough appreciation to their teams for what has been accomplished; and they demonstrate little understanding of normal human limitations. As a result, they can discourage and demotivate their people.

Like many dysfunctional patterns of behavior, unrelenting standards are usually the result of early childhood experiences, in this case of gaining acceptance through performance. Over time, this becomes internalized as a “voice” reminiscent of a demanding parent driving you relentlessly.

To determine if you have unrelenting standards, ask yourself where you stand on the following statements and answer on a scale of one to six with the numbers corresponding to these answers:

  1. Completely untrue of me
  2. Mostly untrue of me
  3. Somewhat untrue of me
  4. Somewhat true of me
  5. Mostly true of me
  6. Completely true of me

The statements

  1. I need to be the best at almost everything I do.
  2. I can’t settle for “good enough”.
  3. I have a very strong need to meet my responsibilities.
  4. I feel constant pressure to achieve.
  5. I hate not winning.

Add up your numbers. If your total is greater than 20 or you answered two or more questions with 5s and 6s you probably have unrelenting standards.

If you have revealed this type of tendency, it is important to identify what triggers this behavior in you and examine how frequently it occurs. The next step is to learn how to manage it in ways that will help you become a better leader.



Michael Watkins - IMD Professor

Michael Watkins

Professor of Leadership and Organizational Change at IMD

He is the author of The First 90 Days, Master Your Next Move, Shaping the Game, and numerous other books and articles on successfully taking new roles. A recognized expert on leadership and transitions, he coaches C-level executives as they take charge, build their teams and transform their organizations. He is the director of The First 90 Days program and the Transition to Business Leadership program.


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